Living with a Roommate

Going away to college is one of the most exciting moments of your life. It can also be one of the scariest. Not only are you leaving your home and your family, but you are quite likely moving in with a stranger who doesn't know your habits, your quirks, your stories. Not to worry.

We are here to make the transition as smooth as possible. Housing and Residence Life does its very best to help roommates make the very most of their opportunity to learn and grow together. Of course, so much of your happiness with your roommate depends on the two of you and how well you get along. Below are some tips for maintaining a good relationship with your roommate. We are here to help you and your roommate try to communicate and sort through your problems, and intervene as necessary.

Ten crucial tips for a good roommate relationship

1. Get to know each other. You've got your first opportunity to make a new friend. Take the time to ask and answer questions -- about family, hobbies, academic interests, etc.

2. Talk it out. Communication is key in building a successful relationship.

3. Be open and friendly. You and your roommate may not have the same taste in clothing or music, but you likely share some of the same concerns and apprehensions. Be the first to step out of your comfort zone.

4. Be understanding. Everyone has bad days. Remember that you may not always be aware of the issues your roommate is dealing with, but there's most likely a good reason for his or her actions. A sympathetic ear might help a lot.

5. Give each other space. Togetherness is great, but too much of a good thing can sometimes lead to a problem. You and your roommate both need time alone. If that time does not come naturally, talk about it and work out a way to make it happen.

6. Ask before you borrow. Everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to lending belongings. Asking first helps avoid misunderstandings.

7. Define "neat." Whether you're a neat freak or a slob, you have someone else's feelings to consider. With a little give and take, you can each adjust accordingly and make your environment comfortable.

8. Pick one extracurricular activity to share. There's nothing like having something in common to care and talk about. If you aren't involved in any of the same activities, you are likely to see each other at bedtime only. You may feel like you're sleeping in a room with a stranger.

9. Schedule study times. Let your roommate know in advance when you have a big test or paper coming. He or she will know to give you some quiet time.

10. Live by the golden rule... "Do unto others, as you would have done unto you..."